Liberal marital therapist, won't even listen to my side of the story?

My wife and I have been seeing a marital therapist for?? 4 weeks maybe. I was severly hurt in Iraq and have been recouperating from that. I see my own psychologist to deal with those issues. I guess b/c of some of these issues my and my wife argue alot. She is sooo disconnected now from me. It's a constant battle of leadership, especially around her family. She's like a gorilla trying to beat her chest and proclaim her right to rule. Anyways, today in therapy, for the second week in a row, I've been taking the brunt of the blame by the counseler. My wife and the counseler agree on everything and it seems that I just don't get my point across ever and the therapist doesnt help explain it to my wife, she just keeps focused on me. She keepss trying to explain to me how to cope with my disability better to help my wife. That's what I'm working through in my private counseling. They both just don't get it, that's my personal issue to work with, I don't need a lecture from them.